People, including politicians, should not use polygamy as an excuse to justify having multiple relationships. The admission by President Jacob Zuma that he fathered a child out-of-wedlock contradicts his commitment to the fight against HIV and AIDS. “It is as dangerous to have a hypocrite as it is to have a denialist leading the country in the fight against HIV and AIDS.” The African National Congress (ANC) and Zuma are correct in saying the president, like any other citizen, has the right to privacy. Both the ANC and Zuma forget that ‘leaders answer to a higher set of standards than even the courts may set’. Our country is deeply patriarchal and requires progressive leaders who will ‘push the envelope, not take us back in time’.